Friday, September 16, 2011
ME! Creating New Rituals
As I have mentioned so many times before, my life/family has been in a heckuva transition. For the past 3 months, I have been living with my Aunt during the week, commuting an hour back and forth to work, then heading 3 hours to be with my family for the weekend. Knowing it would be tough, not knowing for how long, I instinctively created rituals throughout the week. Some of them were good mental health things, like some things I mentioned here. Some things, maybe not so much....like watching The Closer on Monday evenings with my aunt (she introduced me to the show).
Well, my husband got a job offer on Monday (to start the following Monday), and everything kicked into high gear. My family came out to look for a place to move into, and since they were getting a hotel, I wasn't in need of staying with my aunt anymore. So Monday night was my last night with her. It was sad. I had to say goodbye to her. Even though we could get together for visits, living with her for these past 3 months, even if only for part of the week, grew us closer together. And I kinda bonded with her cat. In fact, her cat (Sugar) had joined in part of my rituals. She would sit in the chair with me in the mornings while I drank my coffee, read and journaled. And sweet little Sugar (cute little play on words there...she is a sweet kitty, plus...well sugar is sweet) is an older cat and has some health problems. So Tuesday morning, I had my last morning ritual with Sugar. I teared up. I wondered if this was a permanent goodbye to Sugar.
Laugh if you want, but Tuesday morning it really hit me that I would probably NEVER sit and drink coffee with Sugar (ha! another cute play on words) again! I wanted some security. I took my books and journal to Starbucks....it was ok. I was really sad. Then, when I got to work....struggling with the stress of everything happening so fast....and with this overwhelming sadness....I wanted some tea. I had tea bags that I had put in my desk, but in the 3 months of being here....not once had I had any. I struggled to make some tea. I didn't have a mug. I heated up water in a measuring glass and made the tea on a styrofoam. cup. But it really hit me that I was creating a new ritual. The tea was warm, felt nurturing...
So....Thursday, before work, I bought the mug pictured above and decided to repeat the ritual. An intentional ritual gives you some grounding....at least it does for me! So....that's what I did for ME this week! Head on over to the ME! hub for other ideas!